A Kabbalistic Plan For Raising Awesome & Amazing Kids. While many parenting books devise strategies on communicating with your child in order to instil in them a healthy self-image, develop a positive outlook, and keep them motivated, PARENT BY CHOICE shifts the center of attention from the child's eyes to the parent's persona; from what the child is seeing to what the parent is exuding. PARENT BY CHOICE is not about how to talk so that your kids will comply. It is about how to be so that your kids will aspire to be. It is about how to live so that your kids will be engrained in that kind of living. When we think of the inheritance a parent leaves to a child, our minds immediately turn to money. But there are other kinds of inheritances - emotional inheritance, psychological inheritance, spiritual inheritance. Here, we are going to focus on the root of your child's inner thoughts, feelings and behavior - you.